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Immature and Backstabbing coworkers
Posted by: madLilly
Date: 10/17/2005 12:54:48 AM
I work in an office of people that act like they are still in junior high. Half the group hangs out in a tight knit circle and exclude others. They gossip, badmouth and goof off. A few of them make disgusting sexual comments. One of these members, I believe has badmouthed me to the group so that they have started excluding me. He also drinks during lunch. He used to tease me, which I think is really a front for insecurity. He is much older than everyone else and was fired from his previous job. He told me and someone else, but talks as if he was a temporary employee at his previous employer. He is very insecure as he only knows one thing, while everyone else knows alot of varied subject matter. I'll call him Bob Our manager has been asking questions about a current project for which Bob is the defacto lead. I answered his questions, but didn't mention Bob's name. Although some of the reasons things are going well is Bob's fault. I'm sure that when our manager talks to him. Bob will think I tattletailed on him. So what should I do if he confronts me. Also if the project is unsuccessful we all look bad. He also snoops by looking over my shoulder. If I really get mad, I may bring up the drinking. It is grounds for termination to show up intoxicated at work. I am also afraid that him and his jr. high buddies will start harassing me.
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ritalee |
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10/27/2005 3:22:00 PM |
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hey seems like there is a problem.. if you have to be an adult and prove to them that you wouldn't swoop to their level.. you should'nt let that bother you and get to you cause you know that your better then that.. |
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DLaundry |
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8/31/2006 8:54:00 AM |
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I just wondered what happened to this situation? I don't see any current posts on this site?
I am currently going through a similar situation myself. I tried to help out a woman I worked with and she turned out to be a big backstabber. This other woman we were working with at the time, was lazy and just stood there while we worked around her. I got sick of this, and went to the office. The first woman I worked with, was the only one that knew I did this and eventually told another and so on. This was one year ago, and most of the workplace knows that I 'tattletaled'.
How do I handle the retaliation? I am thinking of quitting, it is getting so bad. Because the only woman that knew of situation and myself don't get along, I think she has brought this up again. I get dirty looks from coworkers and called names. The woman that 'squealed' on me (although she doesn't see it that way and is ok for her) thought I was involved in another rumormill issue and that did it for me and ended it with her. I felt bad that I confided anything with her. The only betrayal the coworkers know about is the one that I couldn't take that lazy coworker anymore. Our job is too brutal for someone to be idle and stand there and defy us to do any work. I never thought all this would be the outcome. Any thoughts would be appreciated. The remarks are getting very sarcastic. I don't socialize much and am 'borderline workaholic' as the first woman used to say. She now stays away from me to show the place that she is not involved to save herself after she dropped this whole thing. |
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