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Difficult co-worker and workenvironment
Posted by: par311
Date: 1/8/2005 3:02:31 PM
My workplace environment is getting very difficult, mainly due to one coworker. This person is: A dominant personality who is overbearing, loud, excessively confrontational, and will not take constructive criticism, but feels free to criticize everyone else. This person has been at the job for over 14 years, while I have been there only 3 years. Unfortunately, I seem to have been a target of his wrath since I arrived mainly because I have more education than him and he saw me as a direct challenge to his position. Therefore, his negativity is directed at me, and others would have difficulty in understanding my position. This person is tolerable as long as he gets his way. I am the odd man out in this workplace as far as politics, tenure,religion, and ethnic background. The people at this workplace are very vocal and unified about their political and religious beliefs. I have very different beliefs than theirs and I do not vocalize anything at work. While most colleagues are relatively friendly, if my beliefs were known, that would change. Any advancements at work would stop, and the atmosphere would become intolerable. This does lead to some of my frustration, i.e., I feel as though I am not standing up for my beliefs, but I've thought about this a lot, and see no other options; In any case, the above environment also keeps me from confronting the aforementioned individual. Specifically, he is in "good" with the boss and other colleagues since they have all been around for so long and all think the same way and if I were to confront him, and I would be cast as the villain and isolated even more. While I know in most workplace issues, voicing ones concerns is typically the best option, I honestly think that if I were to do that, it would be the end of my position. Thanks
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bonedude |
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1/25/2005 9:13:00 PM |
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im guessing his other co workers may feel the same way.and may have been there too.which may be why he is how he is. he wont change and he may not have anything to look forward to.no advancment after 14 years?what a rut.
there may be a better life in a different department.unless you want to spend the next 11 years there too and become like him... |
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| Reply from: |
caz |
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12/7/2005 11:36:00 PM |
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as ive recently been going through work problems my advice to you is check online and learn your rights, and believe me you do have them. Safe working practice applies to all staff and you do not have to be treated this way, im at present going through propoer procedures to try and stop this kind of working enviroment for myself, its got so uncomfortable im now off work sick. |
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Juggalette92 |
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7/25/2007 10:20:00 AM |
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I agree with bonedude. I this man is interferring with your work, you need to get out of there. Its not healthy and its not fair that you feel alone. |
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legalmind |
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12/10/2007 7:54:00 PM |
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Do not presume the boss is a good friend sometimes the familiarity seems like friendship.
Telling your coworkers personal things about yourself is not always a real smart thing to do. Its a workplace not a therapy session. Because they do it does not mean you have too or should feel bad about doing it.Many time ones personal belief is not truthfull anyway.
Unionize the place by contacting me at legalmind123@yahoo.com |
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sun tzu |
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9/25/2010 2:08:00 PM |
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This sounds like the bully type,maybe a narsassist type,despire this person's strong outside appearance,he/she is full of FEAR AND INSECURITY!!! And probably sees you as a threat! My advise,if you wish stay there,is to either try to act like a groupie,ask advise as if he/she was a mentor(I know it sounds revolting). Just a tip,they scream on the outside,because on the inside they are TREMBLING. My old boss was ranting and raveing,I couln't do that and I couldn't do this. And then I found out he had just filed a chapter 11,he was going under,the outside was just a loud bluff. Hope that helps. |
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| Reply from: |
sun tzu |
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9/25/2010 2:09:00 PM |
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This sounds like the bully type,maybe a narsassist type,despire this person's strong outside appearance,he/she is full of FEAR AND INSECURITY!!! And probably sees you as a threat! My advise,if you wish stay there,is to either try to act like a groupie,ask advise as if he/she was a mentor(I know it sounds revolting). Just a tip,they scream on the outside,because on the inside they are TREMBLING. My old boss was ranting and raveing,I couln't do that and I couldn't do this. And then I found out he had just filed a chapter 11,he was going under,the outside was just a loud bluff. Hope that helps. |
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