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Personality Conflict
Posted by: lak765
Date: 9/5/2004 9:03:41 PM
For the past several months, I have this problem with a co-worker. Every time I ask her a question, which is work related, she always gives me an attitude. This co-worker has been with the company for 29 years and other employees have had similar experiences with her. I was told she has to dislike someone and that would be me. I have discussed this situation with management, and they have spoken to her, and she feels she doesn't have an attitude. Now, the only way we are resolving this problem is not to associate with one another. That is hard because it is a small office. I have started looking for a new job, because I feel that would be the only way to resolve the problem. Any advice on this situation would be appreciated. Thank you.
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trishhunter |
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10/24/2004 1:58:00 AM |
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I've been dealing with the EXACT SAME THING. and i'm not leaving. i'm going to ignore her and keep on trying to just do my job and mind my own business. it's getting easier. my best defense - know that you're not insane, she is and pity her for her horrible little life. good luck |
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stepheamy |
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12/29/2004 6:41:00 AM |
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How strange this person works here with me as well! I hope you have not left your job and continue to keep your sanity. What that person does is very immature and disrespectful. It is obvious that you are the adult and that person is used to getting their own way. Please do not give into their insecurities. Their behavior is the only way they know to make you uncomfortable. The best thing to do is be yourself and try not to let them bother you. I know it's hard but it makes you look like a better person. I am sure your co-workers will knotice as well. That's what i've been doing. |
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Lmark41 |
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11/6/2005 9:25:00 AM |
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Wow, that is exactly the problem I have with a co-worker! Please read my entry submitted on 11-5-05. I too work in a small office within a group of 4 and have 1 co-worker with issues. She will only relate to one of us and that puts this person in a bad spot, as my other co-worker and I stay clear of her and only relate to the same co-worker she does! This person obviously has some issues and I can't believe my company hired her, as she has made it public knowledge that she has lost jobs before due to the way "she has been treated by others"..so have u found some solice to this problem or have you found employment elsewhere? I feel I will have to get a job elsewhere also,since there is no way around this for me. It has went on for 3 years now!! |
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mishcout |
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11/7/2005 2:21:00 PM |
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I feel like you have described my situation to a T!!! My co worker has been with the company for over 18 years. and I have only been with them for 2+ yrs. She is offended every time i offer any advice on the new and improved way of doig things. She makes comments under her breath like "ok, BOSS" and she literally yells at me when i ask questions... I hate it. Work shouldn't be like this.. I told my boss.. who I like a lot.. that I am incredibly close to giving her my notice. what have you decided to do? |
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FedUp |
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12/13/2005 12:02:00 AM |
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I feel the same as all of you. I am at my wits end with this coworker. I too work for a small not for profit organization. I love the work that I do but I have seen both sides of this coworker and now I am her target. The organization is going through some change and that of course as I have read is the prime time for this coworker to attack. I have had a break down and sadly think that I have ruined my credibility. There is an investigation on the harassement I filed on my coworker. I fear though that she has someone in the personnel siding with her. This person was also named in my incedent form. I have to share an office with my coworker, and this makes it very difficult. THere is no other place to be , and the acting coordinator sees what is going on but is not in the position to do anything about it. I am close to putting in my notice but I am also reluctant to do so because I love the work I do, I dont like the working conditions. |
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jlange80 |
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5/13/2008 10:01:00 AM |
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If your are looking for a solution and not just to complain, then continue on.
Read Steven Coveys book: Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Apply the habit titled: Seek First to Understand, Then Be Understood.
Read the book: Personality Plus and learn why your personalities are probably the problem.
As fun as it would be to let everyone know the other person is crazy, stupid or wrong-don't. Let everyone save face, as there will be a day when YOU will want the same grace.
Remember that no matter where you work there will always be people to deal with. Until you learn how to deal with people the problems you face at one job will be at the next.Good Luck! |
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deniseb |
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7/1/2008 11:16:00 PM |
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I started a new job about 2 mos ago. I was warned by 2 people about a girl who has been there for 3 years. The first week I was there she was a doll. As time progressed, she became very rude and backstabbing. She seems to be bipolar. She said several times how happy she is to have me and other new people on board. When she talks about any topic, she always seems annoyed. She's very difficult to approach. And, always seems bothered. She recently called a meeting with my boss and the controller to point out that Ive made mistakes and have used white out too many times. (we do many things manual so I can't backspace and fix the errors) and has complained that I send her too many emails. Since I keep my sent emails, Ive tracked 3 per day to her. All business related. she is basically and accounting clerk. She embarrassed me today beyond words. when the owner found out what she did, he told my boss to fire her. how do i handle going back to work since she's pissed... i have to see and deal with her daily. |
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