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    Issues with my general mgr

    Posted by: ShawnaV4L
    Date: 11/18/2009 3:55:29 PM

    Ok, here's a little background..I was on a dating site in which this man with the screen name Shadow Wolf contacted me. This was back in Dec.2008. I got a job at V4L in Feb.2009. I kept chatting with Shadow Wolf, never knowing his real name. He kept trying to meet up with me to have something more but I wouldn't. Come to find out that he was my general managers husband, and she was in process of a divorce from him. Keep in mind the whole time we were chatting I had no idea who he was, but I guess he figured out who I was, and that I worked there. How I dunno. Anyway, I started noticing that my general mgr behavior towards me was becoming hostile, and it was brought to my attention by my lab mgr that she was always trying to have him write me up for little things so I could be fired. My lab mgr was on my side and fought for me. The general mgr admitted to me in email that she brought the personal situation to the workplace, and she just wanted to know what was said or done between me and her husband. I sent her everything I had, and thought that it would be over. I cut off all communication with him when I figured out who he was. I have always felt like she had it out for me. Had I known all along who he was I would have never chatted with him. I feel like there is some discrimination or something there. Please give me some advice on what I can do. Thanks!

    Reply from: cna
    Date: 12/2/2009 7:04:00 PM
    Reply: Hi, What a sticky mess to be in, but remember, you didn't know who this guy was from the start. My suggestion would be to keep any and all emails you have from him and your boss. Believe it or not, you actually have a better chance of filing a wrongful termination suit, (if that happens) - now that this unfortunate situation happened, because it sounds like you thought your boss 'had it in for you' anyway. It's easy for someone else to say, 'just hang in there and do the best job you can', but that's really all you can do. You don't have to defend yourself anymore about this to your boss. If the boss brings it up again, just tell her to talk to her husband about it. He's probably doing this with other women online too. If your working conditions get to the point where you can't stand it anymore, there are special cases where a person can quit there job 'for just cause' and still get unemployment. But, check that out first before you consider it. Good luck!

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