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    Bad therapist recommendation?

    Posted by: beethoven
    Date: 5/26/2009 12:08:03 AM

    I recently went to a therapist due to the pressures of life and job hunting. Yes, I am jobless at the moment. Anyway, she said the best way to deal with rotten people is to say, "That's fine", if they accuse you of lying or something, and walk away.

    This doesn't work with most of the people I've meet. They will either FOLLOW you insisting on talking about the topic or hate you forever because you belittled their opinion. So is there any other suggestions.



    Reply from: cna
    Date: 6/9/2009 10:10:00 PM
    Reply: There are many different ways of handling a situation like this. The best way, would be YOUR way. Having 'said' that, I'm not implying the use of any physically aggressive measures. That would only cause you more harm, and it sounds as though you are struggling enough as it is. There will always be people in our lives that rub us the wrong way, or people that we'd just rather not be around. We all give off 'vibes', some good some not so good. The best way I've found to deal with confrontational people is to (for the most part) - tune them out. Unless they cross a boundary that goes beyond what civilized human beings should act like. Then...I speak my mind. In the right place and in the right way. Being in tune with the people around you and the effect of a 'blow-up' on innocent bystanders would be wise to consider. In the longrun - YOU know what's right and true. The line in that old song may help to put a different perspective on your current issue: 'we wake up to ourselves'. Be true to yourself. I wish for you peace of mind. And, I hope you'll find work soon. Not having that necessary security can make life so much bigger and more difficult than it has to be. Good luck to you.

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