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    Harassment from older man

    Posted by: janjan06
    Date: 8/22/2008 2:50:47 PM

    I recently started working at a law office. I'm the secretary, for my boyfriend's brother who is the lawyer here. In the back of the office there is the drug and alcohol assessor who rents a room. It is only the 3 of us here, so it doesn't get that busy and my boss isn't always here.

    I've know the assessor since I was little (I'm 20 now), he's probably in his late 50's early 60's. But I feel like he's getting too close to comfort. I've always kept my guard of when it comes to men, and get uncomfortable very easily. I just want to know if what I'm worrying about is a big deal or not. Please right back and tell me what you think.

    On the first day of work (6 months ago) he talked to me about me and my boyfriends birth control methods, and telling me birth control and condoms were against the Catholic church (we go to the same Catholic church)...

    When I'm looking at photos or videos online, he'll come up behind me and tell me to stop watching porn...

    He will randomly throw a Kleenex at me. I don't know whether or not they are dirty, but that's just nasty...

    He leaves his clients up here, who are older men and tells them to talk to me, where they either flirt or just stare at me...

    He never says my name the wrong way everyday...

    Please give me your honest opinion on here. I love my job, and I know Jesse has talked to him, but I refuse to work here in these conditions.



    Reply from: cna
    Date: 8/29/2008 12:42:00 AM
    Reply: It sounds like you've solved your problem. The last thing you wrote was you refuse to work there, (under those conditions). It's a done deal. Quit already. Another observation. YOU say you feel uncomfortable around this guy,yet you were watching porn on the computer, and he saw you doing this. Why in the hell would YOU do that in the presence of someone who creeps you out in a sexual way?? Yeah, you've got a problem there, and you are making the problem worse with your own behavior. If you don't want to be hit on, or flirted with, then get your priorities in order and start acting like a respectable young lady. I think you're looking for the attention, and when you get it, you don't know how to handle it.

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