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[Back to message list] [Reply to this topic] [Start a new topic] Coworker temper tantrums stagnate her progress, frustrate coworkersPosted by: tcarp I'm not a manager yet, but I am on that track. I'm taking supervisor training, communication and leadership classes, my idea, but all were encouraged by my boss. I have a coworker who is a very sweet girl that I love dearly, but she gets on these ups and downs that are volatile. When she's happy, she's terrific. She gets depressed and withdrawn, resents everyone, thinks that everyone is out to get her, feels that she should be the boss and knows everything though she has been here less than half the time of all the other employees in the department and has much less knowledge in our field. When we first trained her, she was fine, took guidance well. Now, if you try to guide her or give her any advice as to how to handle anything, she gets offended and very defensive, it's everyone else's fault, never her own.She will come up with a thousand reasons as to why it's not her fault. Then she basically shuts down and stops listening. She turns her music up way too loud for an office environment, and doesn't understand why she can't wear the very short "band-aid" length skirts. She thinks that she should be able to wear whatever she wants. Everything has to be her way or else she throws temper tantrums. She's 23 and feels that everyone both at home and at work treats her like a child and she fights like crazy to be treated like an adult. She's held a steady job since she was 18 and has been married for a couple of years and thinks that entitles her to being categoried as as adult. Sure, you work and you pay your bills, but that's only a small portion of being an adult. Actions speak louder than words in this situation I think. I know that telling her to grow up and calm down would only make everything worse. Her husband and her father also work for our company and that doesn't help matters any b/c whenever she's upset or "been wronged" in her eyes, she runs to them and they will never tell her that she is wrong.I know that she has a lot of potential, but I need to find a way to encourage her to focus her energy and passion on developing herself and her abilities instead of fighting everyone and backstabbing her coworkers as soon as they cross her, which I have watched her do. I think it would be better for her to come to some of these realizations on her own, she may handle it better. I want her to stay, she has a lot of potential and when she's "up" she can be truly wonderful. It's hard to teach her anything new it's just easier to do it myself rather than deal with the tantrums. How do I point her in the right direction? To reply to this topic or add a comment, just complete our 20-second registration process which is free and confidential. If you have already registered, you need to log in. |
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